I was meeting a friend who asked me to stop at the grocery store on the way. While I was there, I realized that part of her instructions weren’t clear. I had been messaging her but I decided a phone call was faster.
I didn’t think much about it and I just called her through the app that we were messaging on. She answered right away. She didn’t even say hello. Just “did you mean to do that?”
She’d assumed that I butt dialed since I never phone. I didn’t. I was just trying to get a series of questions answered faster than I could type.
How often do we just message a friend and never hear their voice? It’s nice to hear them once in a while. Next time you think of texting someone just to say hi, think of calling. I think we all need as much human contact as we can get these days.
It used to be, when you ran into someone, you’d ask “how are you?” and you’d get a response of “fine.” You’d either move on with the conversation or move on with your day.
Since the pandemic started, you never know what the response to “how are you?” will be.
Lonely. Sad. Bored. Overwhelmed. All of these are valid responses. Also, there are many other responses that could be stated. Relieved. Busy. Full plate. Anything goes.
I know a lot of these are answers by text, zoom, or phone. Please take them all with a grain of salt. Listen to your family and friends when they respond, even if it’s not what you expect to hear. Follow up with questions. One day, you’ll get a “fine” response, and you’ll wonder what they are really feeling. Take advantage while you can.
My body does not appreciate sleeping through the night. Usually it’s my bladder that wakes me up.
I have a friend who is a few hours ahead of who sometimes chats with me while I can’t get back to sleep. The other night, while I was awake, he asked me if I was chatting during intermission. I think I like that better than insomnia. Sleep intermission is what I’ll be calling it from now on.
Friends you don’t need
The above linked article talks about friends that you don’t need. These are generally people who have been with you in the past, but your needs haven’t grown at the same rate.
If you have friends like these, maybe you should consider new friends to take with you into the future.
- The Complainer
- The Naysayer
- The Doubter
- The Bragger
- The Flaker
I have a lot of friends who fit under #1 and #5. I try hard to not plan things with either group. The flakers get me more often than not. I trust that they have changed, and they haven’t. Live and learn, I suppose.
The world’s tallest thermometer was just outside of Las Vegas. At one point, it hit 134F. When we were there, it was 64F. They had a clean restroom and the clerk in the gift shop was friendly.